Friday, 5 August 2011

Pity Party

I feel like I'm sinking into a deep hole at the moment. Everyday I am falling further and further behind with my chores. I am far behind on my blog reading, I have hardly commented on any blogs, I haven't touched my stitching and even my crocheting has been neglected.

Amelie has a terrible cold, cough and ear infection, Aurelia has developed a tree nut allergy, which now has to be investigated and Felix is suffering from a cold and the effects of his recent immunisation. I don't feel the best either with the beginnings of a cold and feeling the side-effects of my recent whooping cough vaccine.

My DH is helping as much as he can, but has gone back to work. He is working shorter days to help out in the afternoon and evening.

I have Aurelia's birthday party to organise for two weeks time and I have visitors coming to stay in a weeks time.

To top it all off the postal system has lost two parcels coming from the US containing some stitching supplies.

Please accept my apologies if I don't comment on your blog. My plan today is to read through all the posts and make a scattering of comments.

24 comments:

marly said...

Take care of you and your family - the blogs, needles, and yarns aren't going anywhere and you can catch up when you are feeling better. I hope everyone gets well soon and you can get back to enjoying your handwork.

Nancy said...

Don't worry about the blogs, they're not going anywhere, you can catch up a little at a time. Hope you and your family are feeling better soon!

Melissa said...

Suzanne, don't worry about the blogs! Honestly, we all get tied up with real life stuff so we all understand. As a matter of fact I haven't been that great in the visiting, commenting bits either.

Please take care of yourself and I hope your babies will feel better soon!

Jackie said...

Forget about everything but taking care of yourself and your family. Is there another mom or a teenager that can help you for a day or so? I promise it will get better soon!

Cole said...

I hope you're all feeling better soon!

Susan said...

I'm sorry you are having such a rough time of things right now. {{{hugs}}}. I hope things get back to normal soon. More {{{hugs}}}

Cathy B said...

Suzanne, your little Felix sure is a cutie pie! And your girls, my they are beautiful young ladies! Take good care of them - the stitching can wait.

KarenV said...

{{{{Suzanne}}}}} I'm sorry things are difficult at the minute and hope that you're all feeling better soon. I agree with others, don't worry about blogs, people will understand if you don't comment and if they don't understand, then too bad. You and your family are your priority right now.

Sylvia said...

I promise it will get better - its a big adjustment going from 2 to 3 children ( I had 4 kids in 6 years). Give yourself a break, take it one day at a time and just focus on your family. You will be back to "normal" , whatever that may look like, on your own time schedule. Two young children and an infant are a lot to handle. They are darling, by the way.

Siobhan said...

I echo what everybody has said. Take care of your family and yourself and the rest will come. Everybody understands why you aren't able to comment on blogs, believe me. I think I might have told you that I learned to stitch when my twins were 6 months old. My older daughter was just 4 years old then. My husband had went into business for himself before the twins were born so he worked 6+ days a week, my mother worked FT, etc etc. When people ask me what the twins did at this milestone or that, I honestly have no idea--I remember snippets from their lives (and their sister's life, once they were born) during the time before they started school. We made it out alive--that's all I can say. LOL Every stitch that I could put into a piece of fabric was a small gift I'd given to myself, and it was all during stolen moments. Instead of gifts, when I had a bday or mother's day or Christmas, I'd ask for the gift of time--for somebody to watch the kids so I could go and sit at the computer or stitch or read for an hour by myself, without interruption. Believe me, I understand! It will get better, you will develop a rhythm, and you'll wonder what life was like before your two became three. And eventually, you will miss the time when you never sat in a chair because sitting on the floor next to your kids was easiest, etc. Hang in there. Don't beat yourself up--as we've all said, we all understand.

As to the visitors, don't stress. You have three young kids & your responsibility is to them, not to your house being clean, etc. I will never forget the time that my in-laws came to visit when the twins were 4 months old. I thought they were coming to help, but hauling two babies in car seats into the van to take their older sister to school while MIL had breakfast in bed brought up to her made me realize I was wrong. I still remember collapsing into the chair at night and then MIL would set up the ironing board between me and the TV, and iron my DH's clothes. 17 years later and I still daydream about clonking her upside the head with the iron.

Big hugs going out to you!! xoxo

Wendy said...

I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I suppose we all understand as we all go through it to greater or lesser degrees at some point. Most important of all - do not let the blog thing make you feel pressured. Can't be bothered to blog? Don't, we'll still be here when you come back. Don't feel like commenting on other blogs? Don't! we don't mind! don't feel like reading blogs - hit delete in your reader and go and concentrate on your family. This community isn't going anywhere and we'll welcome you back with open arms when you feel better.

Now, on to a different note. It might be worth seeing your doctor. I know where you're at as I've been there. The doctor can help. xx

Margaret said...

Oh gosh, all you need right now is for everyone to be sick! You poor thing! Having a new baby can be so trying. And here I always thought the 3rd would be a breeze since my second was much easier than the first. Shows what I know! Good luck with getting ready for the b'day party and the guests. And hang in there. Try to remember that this time won't last forever, and the little one will grow so quickly. Get those baby hugs in while you can.

Beatrice said...

My gosh blogging is the least of your problems..but you do know we are all out there encouraging you on. Take care of yourself and your little ones ..hopefully you will all get well soon and can enjoy the upcomeing Birthday party.
Hugs to all and a needle in hand can be quite rewarding.
Greeting from Canada .

Lynn said...

We are the least of your worries right now! Take care of yourself and your family. We'll be here waiting when you are able to return.
When I worked full time, raising the boys on my own, I told my visitors that I hoped they were coming to visit us and not to see the house. Most of them understood completely. I hope yours do too.

Ellen said...

Hope everyone get well soon! Having a new baby is very trying but he will grow up very fast.

Hugs to you and take care!

Marlene said...

Chin up, family have their moments, we are here when you are ready, just enjoy the good days and work through the rest.Soon you will look back on this time and smile. xxx

Katrina said...

Big hugs to you Suzanne -you are in my thoughts and I hope you and you family are all better soon xx

Margaret said...

Don't worry about blogging & commenting - we know what it is like when a young family takes up all your time. Just hope you are feeling better soon so you can really enjoy your beautiful children to the fullest and find a little time all for yourself.

Here is a cute true story for you. My girlfriend Ann has four children - all very close in age. She tells of when they were all very small she would be running around the whole time taking care of everything and needing to go to the bathroom in the worst way. However when the entire set was quiet for a few moments she felt too tired to go to the bathroom and would just fall down on the couch for a quick rest.

hugs, Margaret

Aussie Stitcher said...

I wished that I lived closer to you so that I could give you a hand. Look after yourself and your family, everything and everyone else will wait. ((((HUGS))))

Lois said...

Suzanne, sorry to hear that things are feeling like just one thing after the other. Just take a day at a time and you'll gradually come out the other end. Sick children on top of a new baby is one of the worst things. Hang in there, hope those stash packages turn up soon, so that you can enjoy opening them even if you feel like that's the only bright spot of your day it will still be a bright spot.

Kathy A. said...

Oh hon, I am so sorry that things are so stressful right now.
Just concentrate on getting the family on track.
We will be here when life settles down.
I hope your missing packages show up soon.

Lili Bear said...

I absolutely agree with the comments written above.
Don't stress yourself out for blogging and housework and whatever.
I think you are exhausted and need some time out -but can't have it yet. And exhaustion makes us see hills as if they were high mountains to climb. Everyday you wake up just hoping you can go to bed tonight and wondering how you're going to cope for the next 16 hours...
Allergies, illnesses add to the struggle.
Eventually, Suzanne, things will smoothe and you will remember these moments as trying, and you will be entitled to be proud that you finally did it.
Perhaps your doctor could help you with the distress you're in? Vitamins or whatever he/she sees fit? Don't do the same mistake as I did: I didn't ask for help and ended up with a major post natal depression. :(
You have beautiful children :).
Sure some stitching stash would've done you good... Is there any hope you might get them in the end? Or that they might be replaced?
Sending you comforting hugs. We, mothers, all understand what you're going through.

Brigitte said...

I, too, second each and every word that was said above. I do hope that the cold that you and the kids were developping is almost gone by now. And I do hope that your visitors are sensible people who will lend you a hand. Wishing you and your little family all the best and hugging you ((((Suzanne)))

Farm Girl said...

Hi Suzanne, Sorry to say I too am way behind in my blog reading! I do hope things have improved for you by now, and that everyone is well again. Also hope those parcels have turned up and put a smile on your face. Don't worry about the visitors, it doesn't take a genius to know that 3 young children and a pristine home don't really go together. My Mum used to say 'clean enough to be healthy, dirty enough to be happy', now I understand what she meant!
Take care, Nicky